Ep. 14: What’s One Thing You Wish Women Would Do More of in the Bedroom?
Sex, Lust & Love...What Matters?
We all know what it’s like to become sexually comfortable with a partner after the novelty of a new relationship has worn off.
We often find ourselves having what some refer to as, “married sex” where you inform your partner that you want to have sex and then you both proceed to undress in front of each other while discussing the days events, never missing a beat.
It’s as if the sex is cutting into the only time the two of you have to discuss important matters of the week or upcoming plans. So you decide to keep talking, while you’re getting down to business, until the very last minute.
This happens in most relationships at one time or another, especially in a marriage. Usually though, someone in the relationship is longing for the variety and playfulness of the sex the two of you once had.
Human beings are creatures of habit and even though we sometimes allow the “ruts” to form, we often miss things our partner used to do or long for the things we never had the courage to ask for.
Since I’m currently only researching and interviewing men, I could only ask them the question of the week: (I recognize this would be very interesting to pose this same question to women about men.)
“What’s one thing you wish women would do more of in the bedroom?”
“I wish she would initiate sex more.”-A 43-year-old IT manager from England married for 14 years.
A single 27 year-old writer from Massachusetts said: “I wish women would admit that sex is fun and relax more; it’s hilarious and it should be fun.”
“It would be nice to just have sex. Any sex would be great, it’s been a long time.” –A 56 year-old writer from New Jersey married for 13 years.
A 45 year-old Accountant from England married for 10 years shared: “It would nice to have more oral sex.”
“I would love more role play in the bedroom.”-A 54 year-old self-employed married man of 32 years from the US.
“I would love to try new things and maybe add another women to the mix or experiment with toys but I doubt that would go over well. I wish my wife would be more open minded in the bedroom; it’s always the same 3 positions and it gets boring.”-A 36-year-old married accountant from New Jersey.
A 50-year-old Creative Consultant from Germany married for 2 years said, “More oral sex would be great.”
A 46 year-old entrepreneur from Barcelona married for 20 years said, “I would love to have more sex in general and less sleeping.”
“I wish she would be more aggressive and take the lead more.”- A 58 year-old Engineer from Wisconsin married for 33 years.
A 32 year-old single entrepreneur from Mexico City shared: “I would love more oral sex.”
A 29 year-old single fireman and model from the UK said: “I really like the 69 position but most of my sexual partners haven’t care for it. They preferred to give and receive oral sex individually or just get straight away to intercourse.”
It’s pretty safe to say that, no matter the circumstance, men want more oral sex, but I think if women periodically initiated sex more, it would mean quite a bit to a man.
For the woman who dislikes oral sex, perhaps a good compromise would be for her to meet him halfway and simply initiate sex more often.
Sex should be fun and a significant part of every relationship but, as with most things, it usually comes back to talking to your partner and asking them what they would prefer or would like more of, and then be willing to accommodate and reciprocate…that goes for both men and women.