Ep.19: Should You Give a Threesome a Shot?
Sex, Lust & Love...What Matters?
Sometimes we end up discussing our past sexual experiences with our current partner and we occasionally divulge certain fantasies to each other.
One thing women are often curious about is the obsession men have, ostensibly, with their desire for a threesome.
Threesomes seem to be on the top of the priority list for so many men, and I think it’s safe to say that most men have fantasized about having one at least once in their life.
But, how many of them actually go through with it and do the deed?
“Have You Ever Had a Threesome? If so, Please Describe in Detail Your Experience.”
A 54-year-old divorced writer from Indiana shared: “I’ve actually had a Fivesome and they were all women. I wasn’t in a serious relationship with any of them and I just love women so it was all very enjoyable to me.”
A married gentleman in his 40’s from Kentucky shared that once in his twenties, he had an experience with a woman and another male friend that, as exciting as it was, was incredibly awkward and hasn’t tried it since.
There were countless stories of men who shared that, when it came right down to it, the experience was more awkward than expected and some described it as disappointing. However, there were a handful of men who stated that the experience completely exceeded their expectations and reflect on it as one of their more memorable sexual experiences.
A married plant manager in his late 30’s from Pennsylvania said: “I did have a threesome once and it was amazing. It was my girlfriend’s idea and the women took their time and really enjoyed the whole experience. It was absolutely incredible!”
A single model in his early 30’s from the UK shared: “I once had a threesome with a girl I was dating at University. One evening she was giving me oral sex and then blindfolded me and when she took the blindfold off, her friend was then performing oral sex on me. It was completely surreal but great fun! Definitely a bit awkward but fun, although I think their friendship suffered because of it; unfortunately they drifted apart after that.”
For most men a threesome seems like a rite of passage.
For some though, the hype is more exciting than the actual event itself.
One guy in his mid 40’s from Pennsylvania told me he tried it once when he was younger and he felt that trying to please two women at the same time was way too much work. He realized that he just wanted to be with one of the woman and not have as much pressure. However, he was glad he had the experience but explained that he’s happier just pleasing one woman.
Another gentleman in his mid 50’s from Florida shared: “Yeah I did it, and it was incredible and I’m really glad I did it. Of course at first it’s awkward but then once everyone relaxes, it’s an amazing experience. You just have to be sure to pay attention to both women and don’t leave anyone out.”
Men want the excitement that comes with a threesome but for many, when it comes right down to it, some back out.
One divorced gentleman in his early 50’s from Delaware shared a story about how years ago he was out one night and met two women who were friends. He ended up talking to both of them for a few hours. At the end of the night, the girls invited him back to their place. He didn’t realize what was about to happen until he got to their apartment. Once he realized what they wanted, he told me his nerves got the best of him and he made up an excuse and left. He admitted that even if he had stayed, there was no way he could have performed. He did say that he regrets it and wishes he would have just went with it.
While researching this topic, I came across advice for couples that want to give it a shot. Here’s what some seasoned threesomers had to say:
- Approach it from the woman’s perspective and make it all about her. The main woman (the girlfriend or wife of the guy) should be the main focus and it should be about her experience and pleasure.
- The second woman shouldn’t be a close friend but more of an acquaintance or stranger and her role should be clearly defined as pleasing the main woman. She is not there for the guy but for the woman’s experience.
- The second woman should leave shortly after their “session” and the couple should discuss their experience and talk about what they liked and disliked etc.
Some of the men that had a threesome with their wife or girlfriend felt strongly that it actually brought them closer with their partner and enhanced their own sex life.
However, Kat Conway CEO and Director of Business Affairs at The Scott Treatment Des Cierges ©, a 5 star private luxury treatment center for addiction and holistic wellness shared: “Our team of clinical professionals have successfully saved high-profile marriages and relationships. The only threesome a couple should have is with a clinical professional as a relationship health check once per year.”
Perhaps it is worth adding to your bucket list but I think it takes a very confident woman, in this case two confident women, to pull something like this off.
I suppose that if you have 3 people who are all comfortable with each other and there are no feelings involved, then it might be worth giving it a shot, but sometimes our fantasies are better off being left as just that and maybe not all of them should be acted upon.