Ep.16: The Top 3 Qualities Men are Looking For in a Woman
Sex, Lust & Love...What Matters?
I must admit that when I asked this question of men, I assumed they’d all return the same answer of, “I just want a hot chick that’s not crazy.” I was pleasantly surprised to see men put so much thought into the ideal qualities they were looking for in a woman.
Consider that as of 2008, there were 3.3 billion men on this planet. Is it really possible that all 3.3 billion men want the same things in a woman?
I doubt it.
While researching this topic, I read several online articles about what men are looking for in a woman.
One article on Oprah.com says that men don’t want a woman who partakes in too much banter because banter quickly leads to sarcasm and sarcasm usually leads to making fun of your partner.
Another on eHarmony.com reveals that banter ramps up the attractiveness of a woman immediately and that men want a woman who is funny and playful.
Yet another article on Askmen.com states it’s her waist-to-hip ratio, whether she wears the color red and if she’s agreeable and self-sacrificing.
So what exactly is he looking for?
This week we asked men to describe the top three qualities they’re looking for in their ideal woman.
So we asked men the question:
“What are the three most important qualities you’re looking for in your ideal woman?”
“I’m looking for a woman who is not afraid to be vulnerable because that shows me she has inner strength. Women are nurturing and inspiring and the things they do are amazing. I’m looking for a woman who inspires me to be a better man.” –A 53 year-old single restaurant owner from South Carolina.
A 30-year-old single bartender from PA said, “I want a woman to be fierce about her self respect. She should know who she is and stand up for herself. At the same time she knows how to be empathetic and gentle.”
“My ideal woman would be highly intelligent, physically fit and healthy but most importantly, she would have a good heart.”- A 35 year-old self-employed single man from South Florida.
Most of the men I interviewed felt that intelligence and a sense of humor were the most important qualities they were looking for in a woman.
A 34 year-old single actor from NYC shared: “She would be intelligent and somewhat opposite of me, I don’t want to be with someone who is exactly like me. She doesn’t have to be a perfect ten either, as long as I find her attractive and sexy, that’s all that matters.”
“She’d have to have a lot of brains and a sense of humor; those two things are important. If she has those qualities, then I’m happy and if she’s attractive, that’s even better!”- A 38-year-old single hockey player from Calgary, Canada.
However, there are still some men out there who are steadfast in their search for the hot chick that isn’t crazy.
A 32-year-old single web developer from Pittsburgh, PA said: “Yeah, 36, 24, 36 and a sense of humor, that’s my perfect woman. I’d be in heaven if she were good at remembering movie quotes. Oh, and if she was actually sane; that’d be good too.”
“She would be down to earth and have a wonderful sense of humor with the ability to laugh at herself. Low maintenance and a high level of understanding of who I am and she’d allow me to be me. I would also prefer if she were petite.”- A 49 year-old single healthcare worker from Miami, FL.
A 44-year-old married barbershop owner from Philadelphia, PA said: “Her mind is the most important thing because that’s the one thing I have to live with the longest. Second would be a good sense of humor and third would be overall sex appeal. Sex appeal is subjective though so I’m the only one that has to find her sexy.”
And finally a 48 year-old married filmmaker from LA said: “The perfect woman would have to be completely honest and tell you everything she needs and wants. She would be less needy overall and have a great sense of humor.”
Fortunately, men seem to place a great deal of value on intelligence. A very small percentage of the men I interviewed felt that attractiveness was the most important quality they were looking for in a woman.
If a woman is funny and smart, most men are completely fine with overlooking a whole lot of other unnecessary must haves, but every man is different so thank God there’s 3.3 billion to choose from.
On the surface it feels as though men are looking for the most attractive woman out there, however, based on these and other men’s answers, it appears to be more important for a guy to find a woman with whom he can talk to and yet she can make him laugh.
Maybe men aren’t so different from us after all.