Heidi Doheny Jay is an author, blogger, TV Host and published columnist who explores the mysteries of life, relationships and what makes men and women tick.
I must admit that when I asked this question of men, I assumed they’d all return the same answer of, “I just want a hot chick that’s not crazy.” I was pleasantly surprised to see men put so much thought into the ideal qualities they were looking for in a woman.
Consider that as of 2008, there were 3.3 billion men on this planet. Is it really possible that all 3.3 billion men want the same things in a woman?
I doubt it.
Read MoreThe Daily Mail.com.uk ran a study by Katy Winter in their October 20th, 2014 edition about the secrets to a happy marriage. They looked at over 2,000 couples married for at least 10 years and asked them to rank, in order of importance, their best advice for newlyweds.
Read MoreWe all know what it’s like to become sexually comfortable with a partner after the novelty of a new relationship has worn off.
We often find ourselves having what some refer to as, “married sex” where you inform your partner that you want to have sex and then you both proceed to undress in front of each other while discussing the days events, never missing a beat.
Read More“Women would do well to make an effort not to change. There’s an old saying that I believe Albert Einstein said and it goes something like this: Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” -A 49-year-old married professor from N. Dakota.
How eloquently his advice sums up one of the fundamental differences between men and women, especially when it comes to relationships.
Read MoreI’ve learned plenty from one failed marriage followed by three not so serious relationships. But I wondered if men share the belief that every relationship has something to teach us? And do they ever reflect on why their relationship ended?
Read MoreIt’s the age-old question; does he cheat just because he can, or because something’s missing from his relationship?
Not every man wants to cheat or will cheat. I believe that just because a man (or a woman for that matter) has the urge to cheat, doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll act on it.
Read MoreNot too long ago I was out with some old work colleagues and I met a (let’s just say much younger) man. We ended up talking for about 15 minutes and he asked me for my phone number.
I willingly gave it to him because I found him rather attractive. He was tall, interesting, in great shape and was a fire fighter; what woman doesn’t like a man whose job requires him to save lives.
Read MoreWe’ve most likely all experienced times where we felt upset, lonely, or had a problem and wanted someone to talk to. Women tend to have a plethora of friends or family that they rely on for such times, but who do men talk to?
As a woman, I’ve always thought that men either talk to their wives, close female friends if they have them, or to their male friends. However, what I found in my interviewing is that most men don’t talk to anyone.
Read More“What were we thinking?” says my friend in response to my asking him what he’s learned from his 15 year marriage, “We had it all when we were younger, had all the freedom in the world, and we chose to end it by getting married. It’s still fun and I’ve been happily married, but now I have to be patient and calm and more understanding and it’s just different now.”
The definition of marriage has changed over the years but essentially it has become a partnership between two people who choose to make that partnership legal.
Read MoreMany people believe they’ve experienced love at first sight and are certain of its existence, while others feel it’s simply rapture and lust disguised as love.
Anthropologist, Helen Fisher PhD discusses in her article, The Realities of Love at First Sight appearing in O, Oprah Magazine November 2009, how real the experience of love at first sight can be for both men and women. She explains the science of meeting someone new and how we go about sizing them up immediately.
Read MoreI believe that close male friends can add a wonderful perspective to a woman’s life and diversity to her friendships. But what happens if you find yourself having more than friendship feelings for one of those male friends.
Do men ever consider dating their close female friends and is it possible for them to see something more between the two of you?
Read MoreWithout a doubt, the word pornography can elicit a variety of responses from many different types of men and women. Some people cringe just hearing the word while others have absolutely no issue with it
Read MoreSomeone once asked me, “Do you think men ever get lonely?” My response at the time was, “It sure doesn’t seem like it.”
About eleven years ago I was going through a divorce and found myself feeling incredibly lonely. I knew that over time things would get better, but I always wondered if my ex-husband felt as lonely as I did.
Read MoreAs a single woman in my early 40’s, I’ve occasionally asked myself the question, “Should I go with the moment and sleep with him, or should I wait for the right time?”
And when exactly is the right time?
Read MoreAt various times in my life I’ve found myself sitting with my girlfriends, usually drinking a glass of wine, discussing what it is that makes a man decide to marry a particular woman.
Read MoreIn the hopes of uncovering some of the seemingly difficult differences between men and women I asked the question, “Underneath it all, what do men actually think and feel about their relationships with women, and what matters most to them? What do women most want to understand about men?”
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